Bittersweet

I prefer my chocolate bittersweet, not my love life. Nonreimbused plug -> Lindt

There are many sites out there devoted to bitter relationship endings. I'm not going to link to any here, you can find them yourselves. Most are fake but a few are real and their intent is to somehow get back at the other person by embarrassing them with private information. Probably not the best decision. But when you are hurt, somehow it seems alright.

I thought I'd take a different approach....

Know Yourself
When starting or continuing a relationship, the best advice I can give is to know who you are. Introvert, extrovert, geek, nature lover, adrenaline junkie, bookworm etc. What makes you tick? Learn to accept and love who you are and not worry about other's perceptions. This leads into the next part...

Know What You Want
This refers to what you want in life as well as a partner. It wouldn't be wise to choose someone who wants kids if you are unsure. Don't drive a Ford if you are a Volvo person. What to consider are major points or show stoppers, not something as silly as how someone brushes their teeth.

Make The Choice
No fence sitting allowed. Figure out whether to put your heart into making your relationship work or decide to end it. Things don't get better by doing nothing. This leads into...

End One Before Starting Another
It doesn't matter how you justify it, starting with a new person before you've properly ended your current relationship is ALWAYS bad form. It leads to resentment, hurt and stress far beyond what is necessary. Be an adult and act like one.

The Truth Can Hurt, Lies Hurt More
Many people consider that lying is easier on the other person. It somehow will lessen the blow. In certain cases that may be the correct course but what happens if they find out? How much more hurt will they feel to know someone they loved and trusted added insult to the injury? It's a matter of respect for yourself and the other person. The truth is the best option.


It all boils down to this - treat others as you would like them to treat you. This ethic is more ancient than I am.